Monday, March 4, 2013

Long lost blog

I can't believe two years went by. Where did time go? I always loved blogging life just got crazy. Sometimes I feel like its overwhelming. My family has been well the kids are growing like weeds. H is 11 going on 19, L is 8 and a sensitive sweetheart, and G is 6 and all boy. I love them and although sometimes working and being a mom is hard I love both my job and my kids. In the past year we have gotten a new boss and a new asst who is now one of my closest friends, and I love my boss he is great. I also lost a close friend in a horrible car accident. I have mentioned Mara in my blog before. Well she was killed on July 31,2012 and not a day goes by that I don't think about her and miss her.

 I would really like to go back to blogging, it's therapeutic and it's a nice way to keep memories. I will try to do it at least once a week although no promises.

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Life and Such

I have been so busy I have neglected you blog. Man, where did the time go?
Well where to start? I got a promotion at work, I am now the visual manager and loving it. I work more days, and get to spend more time with my family in the evening and once things settle down I will work way less weekends so that will be nice. That is the good. The bad is my house and my laundry are totally suffering, I never have time to clean and laundry man I will never get it done. I have got to find a cleaning lady. I have an awesome sitter for the kids after school, and we love her. She used to work with me, but she decided it wasn't for her, so she is keeping the kids. Now if I could just find a housekeeper it would be awesome.
Christmas was great, we made a whirlwind trip to my moms and the kids loved it. I am glad we got to spend time with my mom. Last weekend I went to my dads to visit for my 4 day weekend. He had hip replacement surgery and I wanted to visit him. He is doing well and I am glad to see that he is getting around pretty well.
Jenni and I haven't seen each other in over a month and that is hard, she has been my salvation here and I love her. Actually we haven't even talked and I am not sure why, I know that I am really busy with work, and she is due in like 3 weeks but I miss her terribly. I hope we catch up soon. I need her!
Well I know this is a short update, but its life in the fast lane right now. LOL
Till next time remember to hug and kiss your family and tell them you love them, today is gone and tomorrow may never come.....................

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Life in the fast lane

My blog my salvation, we have been so busy with so much going on that I have missed you. School started and everyone is doing well. Well at least G and H are liking school, L says she hates it, but its just a big adjustment for her right now. L and G have been playing soccer they are on the same team and L is doing so well, last weekend she scored 3 goals in one game. G kind of wonders around picking his nose, but he runs the field too. He is the smallest one on the team but he will get better.
I have gone back to work full time I just started on Monday full time. I am still at Dillard's, just full time now. I think it is going to be good for me. I also took a part time merchandising job and I love I am struggling a little bit to find the time to get it all done, but it will work out I hope. I defiantly need to find some help around the house, it is very overwhelming. I miss Jenni, we never see each other anymore and we used to be together all the time. It is hard. I am going to really have to work at it to get a schedule down. Step-son is watching the kids after school, we will see how it goes. I told him at the end of the month we will re-evaluate and see if this is right for him and I. So we shall see.
It is getting close to the holidays, a hard time of the year for me, I still miss my Grandma everyday, but aside from that I miss my mom. I haven't seen her since spring break, and despite the fact that I have invited her to visit she is too busy. I wonder how is that possible, how is it that someone without a job can be too busy to come see her daughter and her grand kids? I don't get it. I love my mom, but I wonder why we cant be a priority in her life. I see the grandmas picking up their grand kids and I have friends talking about going to visit their family and I want that. I want that so bad. I want it for my kids I want them to have that grandma they can go visit and stay with and spend time with. But alas I don't think that is going to happen.
Anyway, we are moving along with life, tomorrow I am going with G on a field trip to the pumpkin patch I am excited. Till next time remember to hug and kiss your family and tell them you love them, today is gone and tomorrow may never come..........................

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

The count down is on

We are one week and counting till the girls go back to school. Both of them are ready as I am for school to start and me to get my house organized. I am excited and sad at the same time for school to start back, Sad that I will have two babies in elementary and excited that they will be in the same school. Please pray for H to find some friends this year. L never has problems making friends so I am not near as worried about her, but pray that she can concentrate and sit still long enough for school. I have me doubts about this. G is excited that next week he will have mommy all to himself, and then he will go back to school the following week.
Tonight I took H to work with me, she wanted to get a book and I thought as I would never let her go alone, I would let her try it this time since the book store is just next door to us in the mall. I was very nervous but i let her go. She was gone like five minutes
got her book and came right back. Which leads me to believe she was as nervous as I was. I thought she would take at least 30 min and look around but nope. She then came to sit and read while I worked, she sat for a little while and read and I wrote done some math problems for her. The I told her she could go upstairs and look at the kids clothes if she wanted. She went up and again came back quickly, she sat down for a few minutes and I told her she could go look at justice
if she wanted so she did. She was gone a little longer this time but 10 min at the most. Then she decided to go get some candy and play a game still maybe 15 min at them most. I was proud of her she didn't get lost and I think she felt proud of herself. I was a learning experience for both of us. A scary one.
We have had another couple of days of good hair that we are excited about. I have found I enjoy doing their hair. Its time spent making each girl feel pretty and i like it as do they. Even L who generally doesn't really care about what she looks like enjoys me fixing her hair.
I have found some great hair blogs and these are where some of these styles have come from, some I have done on my own and some are combos are styles I have found it is great. Although next week when we get up at the but crack of dawn it might not seem so great. LOL Oh well it will totally be worth it for my girls to look cute. Well that is all for tonight till next time remember to hug and kiss your family and tell them you love them, today is gone and tomorrow may never come.......................

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Is there a way to get your kids to listen?

I am battling this daily, my kids just do what they want no matter what I say. Is this normal I ask myself?
Here is an intersting acticle I found hope it helps ya.

Many Parents Teach Their Kids to NOT Listen to Them – Do You?

“Dinner’s ready!" I yell.

Nothing. No pitter patter of feet. Not even a polite “Coming" or “OK."

“DINNER’S READY!" I yell louder.

I strain and listen. All is calm. Not a creature stirs, not a sound can I hear.

Walking down the hall toward their bedrooms I manage to croak out one last “DINNER’S READY!"

Alas, this is how our evening dinners ALWAYS used to begin. Me with a hoarse voice, left feeling underappreciated and unheard! My dog-eared copy of “How to Talk, so Kids Will Listen" just wasn’t helping me when it came to parenting or to really communicate with children.

What Our Children Actually Learn from Our “Helpful Reminders"

Although you know your child’s physical hearing is fine, do you ever tire of saying the same thing over and over again? Are you ever frustrated to find your child responds better and quicker to others—like your spouse! Ever find yourself shouting, “DID YOU HEAR ME?"

I did too, at least until I found another way to ask without having to nag, threaten or take away privileges. When taking my Masters in counseling psychology, I got to study my favorite parenting subject for three years which was ’what makes kid’s tick’— then I got to practice with thousands of families. Like me, you may be relieved to find out there is a much simpler way to get what you want, and give your children what they most need. Here’s what I’ve learned:

Parenting Reminder Myth #1 – In order to get my kids to do anything, they need to be reminded.

Parenting Reminder Reality #1 – Reminders (gulp!) actually teach our kids to NOT listen to us, and robs children of the opportunity to develop their all important 'responsibility muscle’.

You see, saying ANYTHING more than once, (unless of course they truly have not heard you and ask you to repeat) sends three messages to your child:

Reminding Message 1 – “I don’t think you heard me even though my gut tells me you heard me perfectly well."

Reminding Message 2 – “I don’t believe you will REALLY do what you say or promise you’ll do."

Reminding Message 3. “I don’t trust you are totally responsible, and capable of remembering without my reminding you."

As I state in my parenting book, When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You: “Nagging and reminders can actually be an invitation to our children to do the opposite of what we ask! Save yourself the grief and don’t go there."Thus, How to Talk so Kids Will Listen, should be renamed How to NOT Talk, so Kids Will Listen.

Communicating with Child: How to Talk So Kid Will Listens Often Means Talking Less

So if we can’t remind, then what will we do? How will we get our kids to do anything?! Good question. If you have a child who won’t get anything done without a constant diet of your reminders then you have trained your child well indeed. If this is the case, your child knows (consciously or subconsciously) that they have numerous reminders before they HAVE to act. They know this because your reminders tell them so!

So what is your child’s cue to finally respond to your request? Usually the volume or intensity of your words, that sound something like this: “IF I HAVE TO TELL YOU ONE MORE TIME…!"

The key to nipping reminders in the bud is to frankly, bite your tongue. This is tough work for those of us who like to talk, but it is worth the struggle! Commit to asking only once. Over time, you will retrain your child to listen to you the first time.

Before Trying This At Home, Please Heed This ‘Parenting Warning’!

Expect and be prepared for your child to test you. Your child will still forget. This is part of the retraining process, and indicates that you are on the right track. Your child will expect your reminders. Yet, with 100% consistency, it is common to see transformative changes within just one week.

Be consistent, and decide to provide your child with an opportunity to learn from being forgetful without the usual “I told you so."

Instead of reminding, use commonsense consequences that help your child to learn from her actions instead.

When it came to dinners, I called them once and then promptly began dinner with or without them. When they finally arrived, the complaints began: “My peas are cold". I grinned and said, “Why, they were warm when I called you ten minutes ago."

“Will you warm my up my peas?"

“I’m busy eating my dinner. Feel free to warm them up yourself."

Then I sit back, change the subject and enjoy a well-deserved dinner.

Bon appetit! With consistency, you’ll be amazed at how eliminating reminders can heal your child’s selective deafness and have your kid finally listen.

Kelly Nault-Matzen, MA, family counselor, corporate parenting spokesperson and award winning parenting author of When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With Youshares time-tested tools that motivate children to want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! To gain access to more parenting tools and to access your free online parenting course visit http://www.ultimateparenting.com

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More hair photos

I forgot to post our latest hair ventures. Here you go.........................
Sitting here alone, I put the kids to bed and hubby is gone to the races. I wonder what to do with my time, so I started to surf the Internet and decided to go back and ready about Allie the little girl that sparked my childhood cancer interest. As I read through it, I thought how blessed I am
that my kids are healthy. I know in my heart that I am not strong enough to handle that kind of situation. Jenny is a strong lady. I admire her. After Allie died she started a non-profit to help families of children dealing with this horrible disease. I want to do something meaningful with my life. But what is it I am supposed to do? I wanted to go back to school but alas that is not in the cards for me, I just cant afford it. So where do I go now? I cant or don't want to stay at Dillard's forever, it is torture. My boss is a very unpleasant lady who will never be satisfied with anything I do. Not sure why that is but it is. So What do I do? I am going to have to figure it out. Being a mom has been my life for the past 9 years, and now they are all getting to school age now what does that mean for me? Well i will figure it out at some point I hope.I am excited about G's birthday party we paid the deposit for his train ride yesterday and I know he will love it. Today I found him a Thomas umbrella and raincoat. My friend Gail bought him the umbrella and Mara bought the raincoat for his birthday now I need to find him some rain boots. And he will be set for rain. He will love it. Here is what we decided to get him.

I think he will be super excited! Well actually he picked it out so now he is waiting for his bday to get his gift. He also wants some toy story stuff that our little friend got at his party the other night so we will see. Anyway that is all for tonight. Till next time remember to hug and kiss your family and tell them you love them, today is gone and tomorrow may never come.........................